I understand what you are saying Cathy about the rawness and the pain of watching a loved one in pain and not wanting that pain prolonged unnecessarily. As sad as it is to say goodbye it is a relief to know that they do not suffer anymore.

Thanks - you're right, there is an element of relief when their suffering has ended...but I still question why the suffering...

I do not have a DNR or living will. When I go to the hospital and they ask, I tell them to just use their judgement.

TIE

Hi Milt! Hope you are well and happy. I've lost alot of my mobility, and it's really not so bad, unless you have to move. Plenty to do right here in this spot, esp. with a pc. I wonder about the dementia. I always thought it was kind of a good thing...

Jackie

I have thought about this - a lot. I'm 50 and in good health, except for my fibromyalgia. I have brothers with children, but I have no children, no husband - basically no one.

I have watched four grandparents leave this earth - 2 rather quickly, 2 with long term illness, as well other relatives. Our family is a large one and each of these loved ones had tender care and loving hands and words in their final hours. I hope my parents will also have the same (if I and my brothers are here, they will).

My Grandmother was in a coma... her daughters and granddaughters gathered in a circle around her bed singing her favorite hymn and in her last moments her lips began moving and one of my cousins leaned close to hear her words and she was singing. She knew and felt that love at the end.

For myself, I do not see the same end for myself as those who have gone before. So yes, in my own way I'm making preparations in my mind and soul for that time.

I'm for it. It's a tough call no matter.

I always thought that it was impossible to die until it was 'your time'. But to hedge my bets, I keep some chemicals, too.

TIE