Viagra-Vation: Relationships and Erection Medication

There's more to good sex--and a good relationship--than restoring a lost erection.

MichaelCastleman

MichaelCastleman

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Posted: Nov 20, 06 7:13pm

Back in 1998, a little blue, diamond-shaped pill, Viagra, the erection enhancer, took the nation by storm. During the first month after the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved it, doctors wrote almost 300,000 prescriptions, and the drug's sales topped $96 million, making it the biggest blockbuster launch of a new drug in history. Sales of Viagra and the other erection drugs (Cialis and Levitra) are now more than $2 billion a year.

Erection Insurance

If you ask the people who developed Viagra, the drug was designed to help the 10 percent of men who cannot raise erections because of diabetes, other illnesses, and the sexual side effects of other drugs, notably antidepressants. But the rush to Viagra and the other drugs came primarily from men who did not have these problems, men who wanted "erection insurance," greater confidence that when the clothes came off they'd be able to get it up.

Erection insurance appeals to millions of men. According to the Massachusetts Male Aging Study (1994), fewer than half of men over 40 (48 percent) reported "no difficulties at all" with erection. Seventeen percent admitted "occasional" problems. One-quarter said they had "frequent difficulty." And 10 percent said they could "not raise an erection at all."

The majority of the 42 percent of men who can get it up, but have occasional or frequent erection glitches are normal guys who are experiencing normal, age-related erection changes. After 45, most men gradually lose the ability to raise an erection just from sexual fantasy or the sight of an erotically dressed�or undressed�lover. They find they need direct stimulation by hand, mouth, or sex toy. In addition, compared with the rock-solid erections of men's youth, post-45 erections tend to be less firm and less persistent without ongoing fondling. If men don't understand that such changes are natural and do not signal a sex problem, they often assume that they have one. Many of these men have viewed Viagra as a godsend. Even if a man over 40 knows that his erection changes are natural and not a sex problem, erection medication can appear attractive. It takes the worry out of being close. Or does it?

No Panacea

Erection drugs are not erection panaceas. They do not produce erection all by themselves. Rather, they strengthen the penis' ability to respond to erotic signals. If a man is not in the mood for sex, or is turned off to his lover or their relationship, the drugs don't do much. Even when conditions are right, these drugs still only work about 75 percent of the time.

Erection medications may also cause side effects: headache, nasal congestion, indigestion, facial flushing, blurred vision, and in rare cases, more serious vision problems.

Then there's the far more serious problem of Viagra's interaction with nitrate medications prescribed for heart disease (for example, nitroglycerin for angina). If a man taking nitrates takes Viagra, the combination can prove fatal. This combination can cause a precipitous drop in blood pressure, leading to life-threatening shock. The interaction of nitrates and Viagra is particularly troubling because heart disease is a significant risk factor for erection impairment, so men taking nitrates for the former would tend to gravitate to erection drugs for the latter.

Viagra-Vation

Even when it works, Viagra & Co. often cause as many problems as they solve. "Viagra-vation" is the term coined to describe the relationship problems that often result when a previously impotent man can suddenly produce a pharmaceutical erection. "Viagra can create erections," says Marty Klein, Ph.D., a sex and marital therapist in Palo Alto, California, "but it can't fix problems that aren't erection problems. In my 20-plus years of treating impotence, I've seen very few pure erection problems. But I've seen lots of erection difficulties compounded by guilt, shame, anger, anxiety, violence, alcoholism, drug abuse, religious problems, and relationship problems. Even if erection drugs restore lost erections, they can't resolve the other problems that are usually the cause of the erection trouble."

Men and Women See Erection Problems Differently

Men tend to view erection impairment as a mechanical problem, and drugs as a quick fix. Women, on the other hand, see erection difficulties as an emotional issue, and want to work on the couple's intimacy�or lack of it�before they feel comfortable attempting intercourse again. Erection problems are a drag, but a surprisingly large number of couples adapt, especially those who have intimacy issues. Lack of erection means they don't have to deal with their intimacy issues or struggle over sexual frequency. However, when drugs change the sexual equilibrium in the relationship, instead of being a solution, these medications may aggravate underlying relationship problems.

Enhancing Intimacy

So how do you deepen the intimacy in your relationship? First, it's critical to understand that these issues are important, that after 45, it's difficult for men to enjoy good sex without feeling emotionally close to the woman and trusting her, no matter what's up with the penis, with or without erection drugs. If aloofness, anger, or other emotional issues have dimmed the erotic spark in your relationship, it might be a good idea to consult a couples therapist before you ask for that prescription.

If things are fine between you, but you're out of erotic practice because of an erection problem, consider giving each other whole-body massages or experimenting with sex toys or other erotic enhancements. Eroticism grows from mutual attraction and shared sensuality, a heightening of all five senses that excites you and your lover. Massage products and sex toys enhance sensuality. They also slow sex down, which most women enjoy, and which also helps men over 45 become aroused enough to raise erections.

Use Lubricant

Once women are in their forties, many develop menopause-related vaginal dryness. If a couple hasn't had intercourse in a while and then erection drugs make it possible again, without a lubricant, the woman may suffer vaginal irritation and soreness.

There's More to Enjoyable Sex Than Erection

Within a year after Viagra's approval, prescription refills fell below analysts' expectations. The same is true for Cialis and Levitra. That's actually good news. Erection medications can be a boon to some men and couples. But there's more to great sex than an erection. People seem to be figuring that out.

�Michael Castleman

References:

Lamberg, L. "New Drug for Erectile Dysfunction Boon for Many, 'Viagra-vation' for Some," Journal of the American Medical Association (1998) 280:867.

Nordheimer, J. "For Some Couples, Remedy for Impotence May Become a Homewrecker," New York Times, 5-11-1998.

Steinhauer, J. "Viagra's Other Side Effect: Upsets in Many A Marriage," New York Times, 6-23-1998.

 
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PisceanAmber PisceanAmber
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Posted: Dec 5, 07 4:15am

How about this:

Beware: Taking Anti-Impotence Pills Can Make You Blind!

Men who suffer from erectile dysfunction often turn to Viagra to solve their problem. While it has been known for years that some men taking this impotence drug will experience short-term blue/green color blindness, headaches and flushing, a much more serious side effect has been revealed: A team of ophthalmologists has identified a condition that caused permanent blindness in a group of males who had taken Viagra.

The condition? Nonarteritic ischemic optic neuropathy (NAION). It is depicted as "stroke of the eye" and takes place when the blood flow is cut off to the optic nerve, injuring the nerve and causing permanent vision loss.

Proof Viagra Causes NAION

Ophthalmologists identified seven patients (ages 50-69) who had distinctive NAION features within 36 hours of taking Viagra; six patients had vision loss within a mere 24 hours after use of the drug. Moreover, all of the patients had at least one of the following arteriosclerotic risk factors:

• Diabetes

• Hypertension

• Hyperlipidemia: excess fat or lipids in the blood

• Hypercholesterolemia: elevated cholesterol

... as well as a low cup to disk ratio--a way doctors measure the small circular indentation where the optic nerve binds to the eyeball--meaning the blood vessels and nerves are tightly bundled together in the small space behind the eye. And due to the fact that Viagra regulates a chemical to constrict the body's arteries, this could cut off blood flow to the optic nerve, particularly in those who suffer from low cup to disk ratio, where blood vessels and nerves are already tightly packed, and cause vision loss.

Journal of Neuro-Ophthalmology March 2005, Vol. 25, Issue 1: 9-13

PharmaLive.com March 31, 2005

 
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fun4life fun4life
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Posted: Feb 16, 08 10:02am

Side effects or self esteem Live to 100 yrs old or die with your boots on. Let's see My choice give me the boots, I enjoy sex. without it Life my not hold the excitement needed to hang on until 100. So take a risk do viagra & live tomorrow you may not be here.

 
 
 
DINKY DINKY
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Posted: Feb 23, 08 2:35pm

There is always an option...

I tried all of the oral medications and none of them worked for me, some produced a nice floppy penis only slightly firm, and the others gave me a headache and left me with a totally flaccid penis.

I started using CaverJect a prostoglandon and it works!

I have a total "stiffy" for up to two hours, hard as a rock. Sticking a needle in your penis the first few time is intimidating, but it's just a little prick and there is little or no discomfort. I get rock hard [like when I was 13] and I can cum several times and I don't loose the hardon.

My GF loves to ride me "Cowgirl" style, after an hour she is too sore and we change position or location.

So if oral scares you, there is / are options.

 
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annsdaughter annsdaughter
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Posted: Aug 31, 08 5:01pm

Do you have a problems reaching orgasm?

 
 
 
CinSyn CinSyn

Posted: Sep 28, 08 10:58am

That's the problem....the man I have been with for twenty some-odd years is not responding to any oral ED meds anymore. Too much nerve damage. I can suggest that to him, but it sounds expensive. I can't see him sticking a needle into his johnson either. He has already hinted to me that I should go find someone else to have sex with. I doubt he wants that, but he's given up trying. If I had a problem where I didn't want sex or couldn't have sex I would tell him to go get it. I feel so guilty having to look for it elsewhere. It's not his fault he can't get an erection anymore...but what other option do I have if I need a good hard one every once in a while?

 
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perm3800 perm3800
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Posted: Jan 6, 09 10:04pm

If you have a good relationship and you love and respect each other, sex without intercourse is still possible. The largest sex organ is between the ears. If he can learn to enjoy just touching you without believing it has to result in an erection and you are comfortable enough with yourself and trust him enough, sex toys for you for the penetration experience will work. He can learn to see getting you off as a challenge and a thrill in and of itself.

 
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mattsengle mattsengle

Posted: Jan 6, 09 10:36pm

I totally agree! I find much more pleasure in having her cum and multiple orgasms. Sex toys make it much more fun and even if i can't cum, at least i pleased her. As a result love making has become exactly that and is an end to the "wham-bam-thank you-mame" which has become hours in the bedroom instead of minutes. I know she loves that and I am exhausted where we end up cuddling and falling asleep in each others arms.

I never knew what she always wanted and what i was always missing. Ends up as a win-win situation, but the little blue pill does help too!

 
 
 
MichaelCastleman MichaelCastleman
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Posted: Feb 27, 08 10:03pm

Vision problems are a RARE side effect of erection drugs. While it's true that diabetes and hypertension put men at risk, it's a small risk. The vast majority of men with diabetes and hypertension can use erection drugs without going blind. But any man with one of these conditions should be aware of the possibility of vision problems, discuss the issue with his physician, and stop taking the drug immediately if any vision irregularities develop.

 
 
 
jbrid11 jbrid11
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Posted: Mar 15, 08 12:27pm

I,ve tried Cialis a few times and Viagra once and the Viagra worked much better for me. I'll keep using it 'til it quits working.

 
 
 
boothby171 boothby171
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Posted: Mar 19, 08 4:45pm

Wait, are you saying that if you use it, you'll go blind??? Was my mom right, all these years...?

Just kidding, by the way.

If I may ask a related question (perhaps I should start another thread, but I'm a newbie here, and, personally, I don't know if I'll really get all that many meaningful responses.

I had prostate surgery (for cancer) in January, and part of the process to recover my Erectile Function is to take 50mg or 100mg of Viagra A DAY. Now, unfortunately, when I was swimming in free samples from teh doctor's office, I was able to do that--but I did not get an erection (the pill I was supposed to take the night before the surgery--my first--worked like a charm!)

But now my insurance provider will only pay for 6/month, leaving the rest to me and my allegedly deep pockets (NOT!).

So here's the question, and I think I know the answer already: India? Mexico? Canada? Are there ANY "overseas" pharmacy sites that are really worth looking into, or is it all just flim-flam and snake oil? Or, at worst, "powdered rat vomit covered in lead-based blue paint"?

Thanks.

 
 
 
Wayne Hall Wayne Hall

Posted: Sep 28, 08 2:47pm

 
 
Elextra Elextra
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Posted: Mar 11, 08 3:20pm

I am 67 and my boyfriend 58...we have great sex once a week and greater intimacy whenever we're together (about 3 times a week) because we are mutually in love and tremendously attracted to each other, sexually, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and physically. He takes Viagara whenever we have sex and there was only a one month interval in our one-year relationship where it didn't seem to work. H

He has increasing sinus problems and says he is color blind...and while I wonder if that can be attributed to the Viagara, we both love the results.

 
 
 
Kat Myers Kat Myers

Posted: Mar 21, 08 7:07am

So....my situation is this....we don't even touch anymore...if I try to...he pulls away...if he tries to he says I pull away....we both say we don't...but maybe we do....my spouse is on blood pressure medication and a medication for siezure activity due to a CHI...he has been on these now for the past four years..in that time things have declined...sexually...I have asked and he has said he is still attracted to me...but...his actions aren't giving me any indecation...so he gets drunk one evening and blurts out that hes having difficulty...I did not really respond because he had been drinking and I didn't feel he was in the right shape to be discussing this...I have since then attemped to broach the subject and am met with hostility.....so now I just don't know what to do.....? any suggestions?.....

 
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DINKY DINKY
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Posted: Mar 23, 08 5:08pm

Group... the answer to the question is NO! Viagra, Cialis, or... can't save a marriage, but you can, if it's important.

boothby171;

I don't use oral erection meds, they simply do nothing but give me a headache, but there are many other options, including Caverject, Bi-Mix or Tri-Mix, Injectable that work well.

As for buying medications from Canada [we use Jan Drugs] or off shore, I have done that for several years, Canada pharmacies are good, honorable and cheap. Now when the are shipped to me [three month supply of diabetes med Metformin] for $25.00 they come from Australia or Singapore, or... but I had them tested and they are real and not expired.

It's a really good option, I'd contact Jan Drugs, you'll find them on the internet and they can quote any drug you want from Viagra to Insulin.

Kat Myers

If the situation arises just knock him on his butt and suck his flaccid penis off. It absolutely can be done, I've had E.D. for almost 25 years and trust me a flaccid penis can be made to cum. The sensation at climax is really intense. He'll like it if he's man enough to have you do him.

I don't know if it will work for you, but it's an option.

 
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rjncharlotte rjncharlotte

Posted: Nov 12, 08 9:54am

i've cum when still soft with oral help

 
 
 
Mike-P Mike-P
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Posted: Apr 24, 08 11:49am

I have been using "Blue Sunshine (Viagra)" for about 10 months or so.

When I discussed it with my Doc, he told me that while Cialis gave you a 36 hour window, it also stayed in your system for that long. So if a problem arose, with Vaigra, it would only be in my system for 4 hours. As of yet, I have had no problems. I do get a little flushed, but it's a small price to pay.

As for the relationship being the real issue, that is a fact! While the drug helped me with my ED, my spouse and I have tried to work on our relationship. Has it gotten better? Not really, but at least I can perform now.

As for the need for the drug in the first place, it's just the way it is. On many other occasions I have experienced an erection without the need of the drug. No, I will not elaborate here.

Will I continue to use Viagra? Absolutely. That is until the relationship issues get fixed, one way or the other.

 
 
 
James Stordahl James Stordahl

Posted: May 29, 08 2:00pm

Encourage him to talk to a Doctor of his choice...maybe the one that prescribed the high blood pressure medication...Viagra is temporary and does not adversely affect the blood pressure medication...Viagra lasts in your system for 4 hours...once he gets comfortable with the idea, he will probably get comfortable with you...Goof Luck.

 
 
 
NIGHTENGALE NIGHTENGALE

Posted: Aug 18, 08 8:54pm

that hes having difficulty...I did not really respond because he had been drinking and I didn't feel he was in the right shape to be discussing this...I have since then attemped to broach the subject and am met with hostility.....so now I just don't know what to do.....? any suggestions?

Do you have a family doctor that you could trust to call and talk with him? He could call and say your husband needs to come in for a check-up or something and then once he gets him in there, he can specifically ask about sex. Worked for someone I know

 
 
 
Scarecrow Scarecrow
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Posted: Apr 24, 08 11:55am

Some duct tape and 2 Popsicle sticks works just a well as Viagra without the side effects.

;-)

 
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Mockingbird Mockingbird
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Posted: Apr 24, 08 12:16pm

LeoMik!

Yeah, but the splinters are murder!!!

 
 
 
sandrastoddard sandrastoddard

Posted: Aug 13, 08 4:02am
* includes photos

Tell me your not serious

 
 
 
mattsengle mattsengle

Posted: Jan 6, 09 9:28pm

Yeah, but hurts like hell when it is time to take the tape off, trust me I know, especially when you didn't cum! Ouch!!!

 
 
 
1J2j 1J2j
Founding Member
Posted: May 19, 08 3:41pm

Also, before you order those pills on the internet, be aware that difficulty attaining erections has been reported to sometimes be an early warning sign of circulatory problems.

Apparently it occurs before other more commonly watched indications.

Maybe if all those commercials in the sports broadcasts for the pills don't improve relationships, at least more guys will talk to their doctors about sex problems and catch a heart problem early.

 
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Hedonistman Hedonistman
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Posted: May 21, 08 1:01am

Er,,,,gee is it still ok to not need 'help', lol ?

I'm not sure anything can 'save' a marriage, except the 2 people in it. I know men of various ages take and swear by the lil blue pills,,but for me, luckily I do think,,, all works pretty well :) I have noticed my volume of cum is less than when I 45 or so, but I still paint a pretty good face, haha hehe.

I'm curious to ask, at what age do most men find 'need' of 'help' ? I'm about to turn 56,,,should I expect the worst ? One other ?, what do you do after you've cum and still are all rocked up ? I kinda like the 'rebuilding' time between each cum. I'd also say that the women I've been with seem to enjoy the rest after coupling 45 mins or so....

Anyway if a marriage be saved by any outside 'help', I'd say best keep a medicine chest chock full,,,,,,:)

 
 
 
DINKY DINKY
Founding Member
Posted: May 21, 08 10:27pm

Hedonistman

About 80% of men will have erecion troubles at sometime in their lives, some are profound as in my case, others somewhat less and some me at 99 that can get a reasonable hardon, they might forgotten what to do with it, but...

At 80% your chances are pretty good that you may loose some of your hardness or time erect in the future to out right failure to get it up. At that point there is still many option from mild to wild [oral meds to implants]. Failure is not the end of the world as we know it, but it will change your approach to sex.

And of course none of this can save a fucked up marriage or relationship, if your partner will leave you because you can't get it up easily. Just open the door and kick their ass to the nearest curb and then move on, the rest of them will follow.

PS: Good Lovers are always in demand.

 
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happyJames happyJames
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Posted: Jun 30, 08 1:15pm

Here's a joke an older man told me this morning....

A guy goes to his doctor

the doctor says

"I'm prescribing Viagra for you"

the guy says,

"Doc, can I cut it into four pieces?"

the doctor says,

"But you won't achieve a full erection!"

Guy says,

"Doc, I'm 85 years old, all I want to do is stop peeing on my shoes!"

.

 
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Patrick Mic Patrick Mic
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Posted: Aug 7, 08 10:20am

 
 
Patrick Mic Patrick Mic
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Posted: Aug 7, 08 10:22am

That's it! Open the door and kick her ass out.

 
 
 
dgmichels dgmichels

Posted: Aug 7, 08 10:55am

Back when I was overweight, I did occasionally take viagra. The weight loss brought renewed energy, believe me, as well as relief from borderline diabetes and many other problems I was developing. There are other natural products available, and my favorite is Peruvian Maca root -- some herbal places carry it, and it is clinically proven as an herb to work, and it is used by many of the folks down there in the Andes in South AMerica. It is significantly cheaper than viagra, although it works a little differently. The first thing I would recommend to anyone who thinks they are ED is to try to lose around 15 to 20 percent of their body weight -- it can be done and you will feel great in the end. It took me 6-8 months to get where I wanted to be and I have maintained that for a year and a half now.

 
 
 
SageGreen SageGreen

Posted: Aug 10, 08 8:02pm

I think there is a premise underlying all this that penetrative intercourse is necessary for satisfaction. This is certainly widely believed, particularly by men, but is this true?

It also presumes that one needs an erection to have penetrative intercourse, which hasn't been my experience.

And if she isn't interested in having more sexual intercourse having a chemically induced erection will make things worse, not better.

 
 
 
leon104 leon104

Posted: Aug 12, 08 6:48pm

 
 
Guillermo Guillermo
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Posted: Aug 13, 08 6:42am

The medical profession, with its clinical model has put blinders in our society. Can't get an erection? Correct it with ERECTIL! Have too much cholesterol? Correct it with CHOLESTERIL! That is how we are encouraged to live. But there are two negative sides to this. First, this line of thinking ignores the process that is either defective, or in decline to produce the symptoms you are getting. It is so much easier to correct just what you notice. Second, ALL DRUGS have side effects. The main reason is that they fight the effect, rather than the cause. In fact, in most cases, they create or increase a different process that leads to correct the chemical imbalances that you complained about.

For instance, why would Viagra cause eye damage or heart attacks? Because it gives you an erection by increasing circulation and pressure for a sustained amount of time. With a normal erection, the excitement and arousal are sufficient to bring enough blood to the pennis. But if you need viagra, it is because you can not bring enough blood to your pennis. Would you take viagra to bring more blood to your legs if you have varicose veins?

What happens if you have layers of fat and calcium on vans and arteries between your pumping heart and your pennis? Your heart has to work very hard to send all that blood that sustains the erection. Yet, your heart must also have lots of fat in it if your veins have all that fat built in. Isn't this a bad recipe?

Regarding the eyes, it is obvious that anything that will increase blood pressure will increase the risk of harm to the eye vessels. Those tiny little tubes that feed our eyes can also cause things like headaches, poor vision, or glaucoma.

The alternative to viagra is exercise and diet.

Accumulation of the effects of insufficient exercise through the years causes metabolic reductions that result in the acceleration of aging. The main and most obvious side effect of insufficient exercise (and of a poor diet, or consumption of alcohol) is a reduction in our ability to produce collagen. Less collagen results in thinner, less elastic veins, more brittle and thinner bones, less muscle, more fat, reductions in omega absorption, wrinkled skin, and all those lovely changes that we all hate, as we get old.

The solution to the problem, after one is already in need for Viagra, is really difficult. Once our circulation is poor, we get tired with any amount of exercise. Once our diet has become terrible, we seem to "need" all the junk that is destroying us. In fact, fat and grease can become addictive. Our bones can not take jumping, running, or any kind of strain. Our tendons become so weak and tight, that any stretching can rip them and prevent any further exercise for months. And the worse part is that our noncirculating capillaries have become so thin that when we stretch, we can easily create internal bleedings. Yes, if you are out of shape and older, this could be you. You just do not exercise enough to find out how thin and inelastic your arteries and capillaries are. But when you are forced into making an abrupt movement, you do realize what is happening inside your body.

To replenish himself correctly, your body needs a combination of minerals, vitamins, enzymes, other amino-acids, and exercise. In my spare time I am a karate instructor. I often help older people get in shape. The process is long and slow. Every body wants to see quick results and many get discouraged before they get anywhere. But those who keep trying do rip the benefits. You could be 10 years younger than today in three years from now. That is far better than viagra.

 
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boothby171 boothby171
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Posted: Aug 13, 08 1:37pm

G,

That's an overly simplified discussion of whether or not men should take Viagra.

I AM in good shape, I exercise and eat right, my cholesterol is low.

I take Viagra, 100 mg A DAY, to help me recover my erectile function since I had prostate cancer surgery in January. My insurance covers 6 pills a month. I pay for the other 24 out of pocket. This is because the insurance industry considers Viagra to be a "pleasure pill," and ignores other DOCUMENTED and SUCCESSFUL uses.

Unless you've studied Viagra, and know for a fact that all guys that take viagra are fat and out of shape, you're out of line, buddy. And since it is a fact that NOT all Viagra-takers are fat and out of shape...

 
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boothby171 boothby171
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Posted: Aug 13, 08 1:38pm

Actually--it's worse than that. You are assuming that being fat and out of shape is the SOLE REASON for erectile dysfunction.

Again, you are wrong, and your diatribe is biased and somewhat offensive.

 
 
 
SusanElizabeth SusanElizabeth
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Posted: Oct 4, 08 8:22pm

My second ex took cialis.......worked good, but killed spontinaeity......had to tell him I was going to suprise him when he came home from work.......NO sex without 'forwarning'. Kinda of a bummer.

 
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Lisa49221 Lisa49221

Posted: Oct 31, 08 8:00pm

My husband and I havent had sex in over a year so even if he"warned" me id be ready willing and able

 
 
 
HeSearches HeSearches

Posted: Dec 18, 08 7:50pm

There are alternatives to Viagra, Cialis, and the other pharmacology products. I've given up on them and I've gotten much better results with a natural herbal product.

I would agree with what was said about the emotional connection to the woman and the status of the relationship. It makes all the difference in the world.

I was with a woman who didn't want to accept that I was this way simply because I was older. I would tell her over and over that it had nothing to do with how I felt about her and she found it difficult to accept. She thought she was somehow less desirable because she was older. She's still very beautiful in my eyes and very desirable.

I'll give a plug for the natural product I use. It's been a godsend for me because I love sex but only with a woman that I can connect with strongly. I don't have any financial interest in this company, but I would recommend it to anyone who needs some help. The product is called Rock Hard Extreme. You can find it in some sex shops but you will save money by buying it online.

The thing I like about this product is that the results last for more than one day, and in some cases two to three days. Once taken, you can have sex when the time is right. You're not timing sex since you've taken the pill.